See the Good in Goodbye
As you read the last chapter of the book and close its covers, you know that it is time to start a new one. Yes, the memories of that book, the adventures, the laughter and the sorrows make it very difficult to put it down but time has come to turn the page. The same applies to your relationship which has ended.
When you no longer see eye to eye with each other; when you begin to abhor each other’s company and no longer look forward to spending time and doing silly things together; when you no longer look at each other with loving eyes; when you no longer see the future with one another and when you no longer see the point in trying, then you have come to the end.
Regardless if it’s your decision or the other party’s to finally pull the plug on what was once a beautiful thing, there will be pain. It is especially painful if you are the one left behind. This is especially true if you are the one holding on, eyes wide awake at night wondering what you did wrong and pondering exactly how you can work things out, turn back time and bring back the spark that once so consumed the two of you that the thought of being apart is just unacceptable.
But try as you may, there are things broken which are not worth repairing. Try as you may with all your might, you will never succeed if you are the only one working on what is supposed to be a job for two individuals. It is vital that you understand this. It is essential that you see this. Do not waste your energy in futile pursuits when it can be spent on rebuilding yourself.
The end of a relationship is one of the most trying times in your life. You will cry, you will ask why, you will feel pain and you may even wallow in self-pity but let not these circumstances defeat you. You are going through all these challenges for a purpose and I pray that you will see that. There is a light at the end of the tunnel but you can only see it if you move forward.
There is good in goodbyes. It means the end of what was and the promise of what is to come. It is letting go of yesterday and chasing the opportunities today and the fulfilment of tomorrow. Yes, it will be hard. Changes never come easy. It will make you uncomfortable and it might even intimidate you but if something does not help you grow or does not make you happy anymore, there is good in goodbye.