I have never been to a Malay wedding before so when my friend asked me to be her plus one to her colleague’s wedding, I readily went along. Nowadays, traditions are no longer observed for a variety of reasons. Most people who want to get married often opt to go to the judge or the embassy, when they are overseas, for matrimony. It seems that most couples do not want to bother with lengthy, expensive and exhaustive ceremonies. Fortunately, there are still some people who want to preserve their tradition.
In Malay culture, the actual wedding day is called the bersanding. The family and friends of both the bride and groom participate in the ceremony which can last for hours. At an appointed time, the groom goes to the bride’s house accompanied by a band of male musicians called the hadrah. He will then sit with the bride on a couch called a pelamin, which is the centerpiece of the ceremony. They will share their first meal as husband and wife while the wedding guests approach them and shower them with well wishes.
Malay weddings are special occasions and highly celebrated affairs among the family and friends of both the bride and groom.